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Steve Hardison – The Window Cleaner

When Steve Hardison ( www.theultimatecoach.com ) first saw me in London this weekend, he hugged me and then grabbed me by the shoulders and stared into my eyes. If his energy didn’t feel so loving and authentic, I would have probably been weirded out. Instead […]

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How to Present Yourself Well

Do you want to present yourself well? Have you been considering how to present yourself well at your next job interview, sales meeting, first date, funding pitch or networking or social event? I won’t suggest that being concerned with how we present ourselves is all […]

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How to Connect With Potential Clients

The challenge of ‘connecting with potential clients’ reminds me of when my friend James once said to me: “John: Your solution is the problem.” I don’t remember what it was about when he said it, but the concept stuck with me and I see it […]

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Be the Creator of Nothing

A few weeks ago I posted a video titled ‘Be the Creator of Everything’. This is a way of being that I absolutely love. It is incredibly empowering and when I see the world in this way, the experience of crafting my life feels as […]

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Coaching vs Therapy – What’s the Difference?

About ten years ago, when I was just getting started as a property developer, my SUV was making a clunking sound and there was some hesitation in acceleration. I remember meeting Bobby, the mechanic. When we shook hands, his grip was tight and large around […]

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Personal Branding is for Cows, Not People

When a hot piece of iron singes through the fur of a cow’s hide and then hisses as it boils off the moisture in its flesh, it leaves a permanent scar. Putting aside for a moment the barbarism of it, the fact that the scar […]

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How to Coach Without Listening

Yesterday somebody gave me ‘feedback’ during a coaching session. “You aren’t listening to me,” they said. They were right! Patience and listening is considered a virtue in coaching. I can be patient. And I can listen. I can listen to you more deeply than most […]

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Your Desires are a Backwards Strategy

I get loads of emails from people telling me about what they want differently in their lives. A pattern I see is that people will often first list the things they want for themselves… Money, Freedom, Relationship, Passion, etc… And then they will continue, suggesting […]

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How to Find What You Want – Seeking to Creating

Are you searching for something? Maybe a relationship partner, a passion or purpose, a business idea, a job? Whenever someone tells me they are trying to ‘find’ something, I immediately see how and why the thing they want is evading them. Trying to ‘find’ something […]

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How to Create an Elevator Pitch

If you had one minute in an elevator with someone, why would you want to spend it talking about yourself and your idea? Why not spend it focused on the other person, being curious about them, connecting with them? In a world where everyone is […]

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How to Inspire People

The other day my yoga instructor, an inspiring vegetarian, ironman triathlete and yogi named Jessica, said something funny that triggered a new insight for me. (I know I’ve been mentioning ‘yoga’ often recently. What can I say – I’m hooked! Going almost everyday now.) After saying […]

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Don’t Push Too Hard

My father was a policeman. Once he went to a house where the owner hadn’t been heard from for days. He had to break in to check on him. Sadly he found the man passed away on the bathroom floor. He had given himself a heart […]

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