In this TEDxCCN talk JP Morgan Jr explains a simple model for differentiating between intentions of taking, trading and giving which enable you to create more enjoyable and higher quality connections between yourself and others.
This is a talk I gave for my partners at Redefine Us on using social media. The focus of the talk was on creating real human connections online as opposed to the more common themes of using technical tools or social media marketing strategy. Talk sponsored by MessageBase. Watch the full talk below…
In Richard Branson’s autobiography “Losing my Virginity” I noticed a few times how he uses the word “decided” in places many people usually wouldn’t. Like in this passage… This particular passage exemplifies the kind of worldview that leaders like Branson hold. At this meeting, he didn’t ‘realise’ they were right, nor did he ‘understand’ they [...]
When I meet someone new, I want them to trust me as fast as humanly possible. I’m talking within minutes…seconds even. I want them comfortable telling me their private stories, their emotional weaknesses…not because I necessarily want to know any of this stuff, but because I want to make a real human connect with them. [...]
There is so much talk about the newest and slickest techniques in persuasion that some of the most basic, time-tested and powerful rules are often forgotten (or never even learned). I’m not talking about the kind of stuff you learn in a course on secret language patterns. I’m talking about the core principles that fathers [...]
I accidentally pointed my camera at this drug dealer, which pissed him off, but I was able to talk him down and have him laughing in seconds. Since I caught the whole thing on video, I have broken it down here second by second to explain what was happening in my head and what I [...]
I’ve had a hunch for awhile that positive affirmations could in some cases be destructive. I know it sounds strange, but keep reading… I use positive affirmations almost daily, usually in short bursts before I’m going to do some activity or need a bit of motivation. “I can get this done in 5 minutes, so [...]
Next time you’re down or even just in a less than spectacular mood, go ahead and try this… Grab your headphones and find that one song that gets you feeling positive and full of energy more than any other. You might want to find a reasonably private spot, where you can at least close your [...]
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