I learned recently that the Germanic root of the word ‘believe’ literally means ‘to hold dear’ or ‘to love’. As it evolved into English, for many centuries the word ‘belief’ represented ‘faith’. It was used to describe our relationship to ideas that could not be […]
Read MoreAt parents night, my first-grade teacher told my mother that I was “reckless” and “would never amount to anything”. My mom left in tears and from that point onward, I was sent home with behaviour notes every single day. When I was 12, after years […]
Read MoreWhen I use the word ‘should’ I try to use the word ‘shit’ in place of it. It’s a reminder to me, and whoever I’m speaking to, that to use the word SHOULD is basically SHIT. If I say… ‘I should have called’ or ‘I […]
Read MoreWhen I look back over the eight years of my work as a coach, the common thread I see is that every conversation has been a dance. A dance between the way someone sees their world and the way that I can see it through […]
Read MoreWhen I lifted this weight a few of weeks ago, I let out a primal scream. It was an involuntary response to giving it everything I had. Afterwards, when people at the competition asked how I felt, I found myself saying, “I’m happy with how […]
Read MoreIn the spring of 2010, while coaching a female high-powered executive at a cafe in the City of London, I positioned my hand as if it were the needle for an RPM gauge on a car dashboard. “On this side is total disinterest. He doesn’t […]
Read MoreWhat if I told you that the most powerful way to get what you want is to not only give, but to also to ask for nothing in return? Sounds crazy, right? This is exactly what I have discovered to be true; to give and […]
Read MoreI thought I was asking for what I wanted. And actually I was, but it wasn’t what I really wanted. It was something I only wanted because I thought getting it would bring me closer to what I really wanted. Here is an example of […]
Read MoreLast year, I dove deep into an exploration of perspectives on begging, because I wanted a new way of seeing that would remove the discomfort I had when I came upon beggars near my home. I came across lots of wise ideas, but none of […]
Read MoreThis is Wilson. He has lived on my street for 38 years. And I mean that literally…on my STREET. He’s usually sat on the sidewalk with a cup in his hand. There are others of course, but Wilson I came to know for a very […]
Read MoreAs we cross the New Years threshold, I like to choose a theme for the year ahead. Deciding what the year will be ‘about’ for me gives me a sense of direction and purpose. My theme functions as the bedrock to everything that year; be […]
Read MoreNew Year’s resolutions aren’t for me. But it’s not because they don’t work. Imagine someone saying, “Promises don’t work. Everytime I make them, I just end up breaking them.” The problem isn’t promises. It’s the person making them. Very few people actually make commitments in […]
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