Last year, a few months after finishing a coaching program, one of my clients emailed me saying: “Hi John, It’s incredible how much more productive I’m being since we stopped the coaching. I’m not sure what it is, but I’m on fire!” Sitting upright on […]
Read More“You’re in your head.” If there’s a single phrase I’m sick of hearing, and yet always curious as to when I’ll hear it next, it’s this one. In fact, I heard it this past weekend when I was speaking with Mel Carnegie, a woman I […]
Read MoreI thought I knew what presence was… …until I held my first nephew in my arms and stared into his eyes. I thought I knew what presence was… …until I stood beside my father-in-law as he took his final breath. I thought I knew what […]
Read MoreWe cannot create what we cannot see. Since our choices are always limited to the options evident to us, one way we can powerfully impact people is to show them what they can’t see. For example, if your client’s two considered options are (A) raise […]
Read MoreThe words we think, speak and write create the world around us. Not just the world as we perceive it – but the actual, tangible world. Loving words create love. Fearful words create fear. Constructive words manifest. Destructive words tear down. Limiting words limit. Opening […]
Read MoreWhen it comes to being a powerful coach, ‘integrity’ is something I have found to be crucial. When using this word, I am actually referring to BOTH it’s two definitions. Integrity /inˈteɡrədē/ noun 1. The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral […]
Read MoreMy Top 10 Principles for Being a Powerful Coach Since I was a little kid, I have been infatuated with power. Having power, gaining power, playing with power and accessing power. I loved model rockets, burning things and making things explode. I loved driving power […]
Read MoreIn the same way that ‘authenticity’ became a buzz word in circles of personal growth, so now has the word ‘vulnerability’. At it’s center, I have no problem with this. They are in fact buzzwords because something in society is calling for the essence of […]
Read MoreFrom 2012-2014, I had been raising my coaching fees over and over again without changing the coaching program I was providing. One day I got curious about what the equivalent ‘hourly rate’ of the coaches whose fees I aspired to came out to – fees […]
Read MoreIn as much as recognizing that money is a measurement has served me (see insight #6 ‘Money is a Measurement’), sometimes even that can be a trap. I once noticed that by becoming too convinced that my income was a reflection of the service I […]
Read MoreWhen I started challenging myself by asking for higher fees, I worried that saying the ‘high fee’ upfront would scare people away. I kept my high fees a secret while I coached and served them, reasoning (i.e. hoping) that they would be so impacted by […]
Read MoreOne of the primary focuses of my own personal work is to fully remove myself from a coaching conversation. To not exist. To be purely reflective. To be invisible. To be nothing. What I mean by this is that I don’t want any of my […]
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