I didn’t tell Jude this when I was coaching her, but she and I had something in common. Up until this coaching conversation, Jude and I had both been talking about writing a book for ages. We thought about doing it. We had said we would do […]
Read MoreI like the idea that a vision is not a place to get TO, but a place to come FROM. In this short clip of a coaching conversation I had with Jude, she tells me how she wants to be doing more public talks. Certainly one […]
Read MoreWhen Steve Hardison ( www.theultimatecoach.com ) first saw me in London this weekend, he hugged me and then grabbed me by the shoulders and stared into my eyes. If his energy didn’t feel so loving and authentic, I would have probably been weirded out. Instead […]
Read MoreDo you want to present yourself well? Have you been considering how to present yourself well at your next job interview, sales meeting, first date, funding pitch or networking or social event? I won’t suggest that being concerned with how we present ourselves is all […]
Read MoreThe challenge of ‘connecting with potential clients’ reminds me of when my friend James once said to me: “John: Your solution is the problem.” I don’t remember what it was about when he said it, but the concept stuck with me and I see it […]
Read MoreA few weeks ago I posted a video titled ‘Be the Creator of Everything’. This is a way of being that I absolutely love. It is incredibly empowering and when I see the world in this way, the experience of crafting my life feels as […]
Read MoreAbout ten years ago, when I was just getting started as a property developer, my SUV was making a clunking sound and there was some hesitation in acceleration. I remember meeting Bobby, the mechanic. When we shook hands, his grip was tight and large around […]
Read MoreWhen a hot piece of iron singes through the fur of a cow’s hide and then hisses as it boils off the moisture in its flesh, it leaves a permanent scar. Putting aside for a moment the barbarism of it, the fact that the scar […]
Read MoreYesterday somebody gave me ‘feedback’ during a coaching session. “You aren’t listening to me,” they said. They were right! Patience and listening is considered a virtue in coaching. I can be patient. And I can listen. I can listen to you more deeply than most […]
Read MoreI get loads of emails from people telling me about what they want differently in their lives. A pattern I see is that people will often first list the things they want for themselves… Money, Freedom, Relationship, Passion, etc… And then they will continue, suggesting […]
Read MoreAre you searching for something? Maybe a relationship partner, a passion or purpose, a business idea, a job? Whenever someone tells me they are trying to ‘find’ something, I immediately see how and why the thing they want is evading them. Trying to ‘find’ something […]
Read MoreIf you had one minute in an elevator with someone, why would you want to spend it talking about yourself and your idea? Why not spend it focused on the other person, being curious about them, connecting with them? In a world where everyone is […]
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