Category: ‘How To’

When I look back over the eight years of my work as a coach, the common thread I see is that every conversation has been a dance. A dance between the way someone sees their world and the way that I can see it through […]

When I lifted this weight a few of weeks ago, I let out a primal scream. It was an involuntary response to giving it everything I had. Afterwards, when people at the competition asked how I felt, I found myself saying, “I’m happy with how […]

I thought I was asking for what I wanted. And actually I was, but it wasn’t what I really wanted. It was something I only wanted because I thought getting it would bring me closer to what I really wanted. Here is an example of […]

Last year, I dove deep into an exploration of perspectives on begging, because I wanted a new way of seeing that would remove the discomfort I had when I came upon beggars near my home. I came across lots of wise ideas, but none of […]

This is Wilson. He has lived on my street for 38 years. And I mean that literally…on my STREET. He’s usually sat on the sidewalk with a cup in his hand. There are others of course, but Wilson I came to know for a very […]

As we cross the New Years threshold, I like to choose a theme for the year ahead. Deciding what the year will be ‘about’ for me gives me a sense of direction and purpose. My theme functions as the bedrock to everything that year; be […]

New Year’s resolutions aren’t for me. But it’s not because they don’t work. Imagine someone saying, “Promises don’t work. Everytime I make them, I just end up breaking them.” The problem isn’t promises. It’s the person making them. Very few people actually make commitments in […]

For most of my life, I’ve been that guy whose leg bounces up and down beneath the table and vibrates the silverware. It’s not that I’m always anxious. Well, at least not in a fearful way. It’s that my mind has habitually run on hyperdrive; […]

“I believe in intuition and inspiration.” – Albert Einstein The years I spent living nomadically, buying only one-way tickets and not making any commitments, served me greatly in developing my ability to act intuitively. Without plans, I was left to the present moment for direction. […]

Ten years ago, my friend Jake and I were doing some arnis (stick fighting) drills for a photo shoot for his self defense school and he accidentally hit me in the face, splitting my eye open. The moment I saw the blood pouring into my […]