How I Used Persuasion Techniques to NOT Get My Ass Kicked by an Angry Jamaican Drug Dealer
I accidentally pointed my camera at this drug dealer, which pissed him off, but I was able to talk him down and have him laughing in seconds.
Since I caught the whole thing on video, I have broken it down here second by second to explain what was happening in my head and what I did.
I WOULD LOVE YOUR FEEDBACK on this stuff. Do you like it? Do you find value in it? My plan is to do lots more real-world videos demonstrating authentic attraction, influence and inspiration and YOUR feedback is a big part of this.
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Hey John,
From my own experience it’s always very valuable to use authentic situations when you teach your work. For “visual’ people real-world videos could be of a great help. I can see that you are very excited and inspired about doing those videos. So where there is an inspiration, follow it! Think about how long those videos should be. That depends on their purpose. Good luck with that idea!
Great stuff! Very nicely done. And well done to James for suggesting it as a video posting 🙂
very fascinating and honest! i am looking forward to more! sai
Your video reminds me about the thin-slicing procedure they use in “Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking” ( book ).
Good stuff.
hey john, great stuff! i love the way you break stuff down – and the fact that the video is playing at the same time (both videos – of you and of the footage). i’m quite visual so it works for me!
i am left with a little voice inside my head of “how the hell does this guy know so much… and apply it like that!” but then i remind myself … its you… natural unconscious competence…
This is absolutely brilliant! To take control of a situation involving a Jamaican (I can say this because I am half-Jamaican and lived there for a while), and in particular one who sells drugs, is a BIG accomplishment! 🙂 A different reaction to him could have had pretty serious repercussions. Thank you for sharing – excellent psych and communication skills.
~Bliss
This is great! It reminds me of something I done when I was in secondary school (high school) on the way home from saturday classes. A guy on a bike with a deep facial scar stopped me after I had walked past him. He kind of toppled off his bike and nudged me, assumingly trying to provoke a reaction. He asked why I was laughing at him (???) which was random as we never really made any eye contact at all. I asked when and he said, “just now when you walked past me”. He then began to ask some questions about the area I was from, how old I was etc, and I answered. My mind instant searched for ways to escape the place I was in but didn’t think I’d be able to outpace him as he was on a bike. I could’ve gone into the underground station (seven sisters) which I was right next to but wasn’t too sure it would help. I can’t remember exactly how we got further into conversation, but I suddenly found myself taking control of the conversation and asking him questions about his life. Then we started speaking about his stresses he was going through. As we closed the short talk, he said to me “You’re lucky, I was actually going to stab you but you’re a cool kid”. All I could remember whilst walking away from the situation was “how the heck did I do that?”. I had no NLP or psychology training whatsoever, I was 16, and usually got nervous when speaking to people let alone whilst being confronted aggressively. It felt like something took over my body and started to speak through me. Throughout my years in school I had always strangely believed that somebody was going to stab me, for no particular reason :s 8 years later I’m still alive most thankfully! This video I ‘randomly’ came across just brought back those memories for me! It’s insane how connecting with people on a personal & emotional level in such a short time (rapport building) can change peoples split-second intentions. Glad you got out of your situation safely. Keep shining & keep changing lives for the better! 🙂
Nathan, Thanks for your comment mate. What a great story! You’re so right about making a personal and emotional connection. Fear feeds on fear. You didn’t give him anything to feed on. Fantastic! And very glad you have never been stabbed!!