“They should just drop a bomb on the country and blow them all the fuck up,” he said. I watched his face after he’d finished. His chin was stubbled. I hadn’t noticed before, but now the roughness and the hardness of it was all I […]
Read MoreLast night we went to see the new Bradley Cooper film ‘American Sniper’. As we crunched our way across the quiet, icy parking lot towards the cinema I was mildly aware of an ambient discomfort with going to see a film depicting real-life, present day […]
Read MoreI like the idea that a vision is not a place to get TO, but a place to come FROM. In this short clip of a coaching conversation I had with Jude, she tells me how she wants to be doing more public talks. Certainly one […]
Read MoreWhen Steve Hardison ( www.theultimatecoach.com ) first saw me in London this weekend, he hugged me and then grabbed me by the shoulders and stared into my eyes. If his energy didn’t feel so loving and authentic, I would have probably been weirded out. Instead […]
Read MoreDo you want to present yourself well? Have you been considering how to present yourself well at your next job interview, sales meeting, first date, funding pitch or networking or social event? I won’t suggest that being concerned with how we present ourselves is all […]
Read MoreThe challenge of ‘connecting with potential clients’ reminds me of when my friend James once said to me: “John: Your solution is the problem.” I don’t remember what it was about when he said it, but the concept stuck with me and I see it […]
Read MoreYesterday somebody gave me ‘feedback’ during a coaching session. “You aren’t listening to me,” they said. They were right! Patience and listening is considered a virtue in coaching. I can be patient. And I can listen. I can listen to you more deeply than most […]
Read MoreIf you had one minute in an elevator with someone, why would you want to spend it talking about yourself and your idea? Why not spend it focused on the other person, being curious about them, connecting with them? In a world where everyone is […]
Read MoreThe other day my yoga instructor, an inspiring vegetarian, ironman triathlete and yogi named Jessica, said something funny that triggered a new insight for me. (I know I’ve been mentioning ‘yoga’ often recently. What can I say – I’m hooked! Going almost everyday now.) After saying […]
Read MoreThe other day I was in conversation with an inspiring coach I know. We were discussing the importance of having no limiting thoughts about what your client can create. “What is zero times anything?” he asked me. “Zero,” I answered. He stared at me and […]
Read MoreThe Victim believes she is at the mercy of circumstance. She is an unfortunate slave to the whims of the world. The world wins and she loses. The Controller believes she creates her own destiny. She rises up in defiance of the world’s whims and […]
Read MoreThe modern meaning of the word ‘guru’ has come to represent a hyper egoic, self-branded, pseudo superhero. In its worst form is a polished personality selling an empty solution to making money or attaining your dreams. We’ve become so sick of this though. In the […]
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