“They should just drop a bomb on the country and blow them all the fuck up,” he said. I watched his face after he’d finished. His chin was stubbled. I hadn’t noticed before, but now the roughness and the hardness of it was all I […]
Read MoreLast night we went to see the new Bradley Cooper film ‘American Sniper’. As we crunched our way across the quiet, icy parking lot towards the cinema I was mildly aware of an ambient discomfort with going to see a film depicting real-life, present day […]
Read MorePeople make the whole ‘client creation’ thing so difficult by putting all sorts of stuff between themselves and actually having a client. My method for creating clients in my coaching business is simple. I do just one thing: Coach In this video, I show Jude […]
Read MoreI didn’t tell Jude this when I was coaching her, but she and I had something in common. Up until this coaching conversation, Jude and I had both been talking about writing a book for ages. We thought about doing it. We had said we would do […]
Read MoreI like the idea that a vision is not a place to get TO, but a place to come FROM. In this short clip of a coaching conversation I had with Jude, she tells me how she wants to be doing more public talks. Certainly one […]
Read MoreWhen Steve Hardison ( www.theultimatecoach.com ) first saw me in London this weekend, he hugged me and then grabbed me by the shoulders and stared into my eyes. If his energy didn’t feel so loving and authentic, I would have probably been weirded out. Instead […]
Read MoreDo you want to present yourself well? Have you been considering how to present yourself well at your next job interview, sales meeting, first date, funding pitch or networking or social event? I won’t suggest that being concerned with how we present ourselves is all […]
Read MoreThe challenge of ‘connecting with potential clients’ reminds me of when my friend James once said to me: “John: Your solution is the problem.” I don’t remember what it was about when he said it, but the concept stuck with me and I see it […]
Read MoreA few weeks ago I posted a video titled ‘Be the Creator of Everything’. This is a way of being that I absolutely love. It is incredibly empowering and when I see the world in this way, the experience of crafting my life feels as […]
Read MoreAbout ten years ago, when I was just getting started as a property developer, my SUV was making a clunking sound and there was some hesitation in acceleration. I remember meeting Bobby, the mechanic. When we shook hands, his grip was tight and large around […]
Read MoreWhen a hot piece of iron singes through the fur of a cow’s hide and then hisses as it boils off the moisture in its flesh, it leaves a permanent scar. Putting aside for a moment the barbarism of it, the fact that the scar […]
Read MoreYesterday somebody gave me ‘feedback’ during a coaching session. “You aren’t listening to me,” they said. They were right! Patience and listening is considered a virtue in coaching. I can be patient. And I can listen. I can listen to you more deeply than most […]
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